Three of Wands

i. The Nutshell

Upright
The Three of Wands shows a stage where you’ve taken steps toward something new but are still waiting to see what comes of it. There may be a sense of distance between where you are and where you want to be. This gap can create restlessness, frustration, or impatience, especially if your efforts haven’t yet brought visible results. The discomfort of waiting can push unresolved patterns of control, doubt, or rumination to the surface which may arise as a way to manage uncertainty. You might also be unconsciously projecting expectations into the future, trying to secure outcomes before they unfold. Like the Two of Wands, this can block presence and limit your ability to respond in the present moment. There may be a deeper fear underneath such as failure, visibility, or of outgrowing what feels familiar. At this point, you need to stay steady without moving too fast or giving up because trust grows in your ability to face what you don’t know. In relationships or shared plans, this card can reflect differing visions or timelines so growth may require negotiation or letting go of control. Someone else's presence might activate fears you haven’t met in yourself. If you’re waiting on someone to ‘match’ you, examine whether that waiting has become a way to avoid action or accountability.

Keywords: Expansion, expectation, discomfort in the unknown, projection, waiting, fear of failure, momentum, unsteady ground
Translation: You’ve made a choice; now you need to hold yourself through the waiting without clinging to what you can’t control.

Reversed
The reversed Three of Wands shows tension between longing and avoidance. You may feel stuck in imagining possibilities whilst delaying action. Overthinking can stall progress, and fear of mistakes may show up as hesitation that looks like caution. Fantasising about a better life while not engaging with the one you have creates disconnection and confusion, so this card asks you to recognise where you're still holding on to old visions that don’t fit your current reality. It may feel like something is missing, but that sense of lack is often a sign you’re not fully here. Your energy might be scattered between old hopes and future plans that need revising. Returning to the present isn’t always comfortable, but it’s where integration happens because there’s no way forward without facing what’s already here. If disappointment is surfacing, let it point to what needs realignment and presence.

Keywords: Rumination, stagnation, disconnection, avoidance, delay, fear of failure, blocked energy, unrealistic expectations
Translation: Still hoping for a future that no longer fits you? Move forward by facing your present reality.

ii. Illus-traits

A look at the symbolic language of the Three of Wands in the Rider-Waite-Smith deck:

Figure facing outward – You’ve already made a choice or taken a step. Now you’re watching to see what comes next. Represents the pause between effort and outcome.
Three wands planted in the ground – A foundation has been laid. Suggests early stability, but also the need for continued growth and patience.
Ships on the water – Movement is happening, but it may be out of your hands. Reflects the tension between effort and surrender.
Wide landscape and open sea – A future beyond your current environment is possible. Invites expansion but also asks you to release control over how and when it unfolds.
Elevated position – Distance offers perspective. You can assess progress, but also become aware of gaps between vision and reality.
Simple robe and solid stance – You’re prepared, but not in motion. Suggests readiness without urgency since waiting becomes part of the process.

iii. Influences

Planetary Influence
Like the Two of Wands, the Three of Wands is also influenced by Mars and the Sun. Mars rules drive, self-assertion, and how we pursue goals. The Sun relates to identity and the need for self-definition, so together they highlight a stage where action is possible but must be guided by perspective. There may be a strong urge to move forward or control the outcome without examining what’s motivating it. This card suggests a need to observe and let internal alignment guide external movement.

Natal Houses
Mars rules the First House which is linked to self-initiation, physical instinct, and personal will whilst the Sun rules the Fifth House which deals with personal expression, creative identity, and recognition. Tension in these areas can show as impatience, frustration, or acting to prove worth. You may feel pulled to act before you're clear on your purpose, or delay action out of fear of not being seen. The work lies in noticing whether your actions come from pressure or grounded direction.

Astrological Signs
Aries acts quickly and resists delay but may overlook emotional depth or relational impact. Leo seeks visibility and personal meaning but can confuse being seen with being fulfilled. These signs show where action can be either impulsive or derailed by the ego. When tension with waiting sets in, rumination or premature action may follow. The life path lesson is to act with awareness and to move in line with your actual values and stage of growth.

Numerology
The Three of Wands corresponds to the number three. Three marks the stage where an initial choice has been made and movement has begun, but results are still forming. It brings tension between expectation and reality and patterns can include waiting for external confirmation, projecting outcomes, or feeling stalled when progress is slow. These may reflect deeper fears around visibility, disappointment, or not being in control. The lesson is to recognise when you're delaying engagement with the present by focusing too much on what’s ahead.

Element
The Three of Wands is ruled by Fire, which relates to drive, will, and personal vision. Right now, Fire’s energy is steady and reaching out as it wants to grow but needs the right time and patience. If not managed, it can show up as restlessness, frustration, or rumination when outcomes don’t come quickly. The challenge is to stay focused in uncertain times, act without pushing for quick results, and notice when impatience hides deeper discontent from the ambiguity.

iv. A Day in the Life of the Three of Wands

Well That Escalated Quickly
You’ve committed to something - left the job, launched the project, set the boundary… but now you’re waiting. The movement you hoped for hasn’t arrived yet, or it’s taking a different shape than expected. You may feel exposed, uncertain, or question whether you misjudged the timing. There’s pressure to stay confident, but internally the frustration is building. You check for signs, compare yourself to others, or replay decisions in your head. Rumination replaces momentum and you’ve noticed the fear is no longer about starting anymore but what’s going to happen if things don’t move forward in the way you’d imagined.

Adjusting the Knobs
You start noticing how much energy goes into controlling outcomes. You might monitor progress too closely or hold back from fully engaging in case it fails. There’s a temptation to retreat or edit your original goal so it feels safer. Underneath is a fear of exposure; of being wrong, seen as naive, or out of your depth. This often traces back to early experiences where doing your best still led to criticism or silence. Rather than risk another let-down, you detach from what you’ve already initiated and convince yourself it wasn’t that important.

Unsubscribed from Self-Sabotage
You begin to see that discomfort in the waiting is part of the process, and not necessarily a signal that something’s wrong. You stop rushing to fill the silence or manage how things unfold. Instead of chasing progress, you notice where you’re not fully present. Small steps begin to feel meaningful again because they’ve reconnected you to what matters. You acknowledge the future is uncertain, but stop abandoning yourself in the space between effort and result.

Writing the TED Talk
You move forward knowing there are no mistakes, only lessons, and that where you are now is part of your life path. Action has been taken, and even if the outcome is unclear, you remain committed by preparing and responding as things unfold. You’ve accepted that timing and results aren’t fully in your control, but are remaining engaged because the goal still matters. Even without visible progress, you trust that your efforts are building something real. When you speak about your plans, it’s because they’re meaningful, and you now handle delays calmly, observing urges for reassurance that fade as your confidence grows.

v. Working with these Energies

The Three of Wands appears after you’ve taken a step or made a choice, but the outcome is still unfolding. This stage brings anticipation mixed with doubt so you may feel restless or question your path when things don’t progress as expected. The deeper lesson is learning to stay present without needing immediate results, so this card highlights how control softens, and patterns around trust and timing begin to surface.

Track the threshold
Notice when hope turns into pressure. Momentum slows and instead of waiting with trust, you may start over-planning or pulling back. This is where the urge to quit or force outcomes often begins. Let yourself notice the agitation without reacting to it.

Name what you're projecting
Look at what you’re expecting. Are you relying on a certain result to feel secure or validated? The fear may not be failure, but about not being seen or rewarded for your effort. Use this to check where you’re outsourcing your sense of self worth.

Let discomfort do its work
This phase is meant to feel uncertain because the unease is part of the process, showing where you still try to manage outcomes instead of staying with the experience. Learning to hold direction without control is the growth here. So we could say here this card is about cultivating patience to some degree and the minor to the Hanged Man.

Remain in motion
Choose one grounded action that reflects your values. Share your plans, follow up, or adapt your approach. If others are involved, see how their input challenges or refines your path. Some shifts may feel disruptive but are actually realignments.

vi. Building Skills

Practicing Defusion with Committed Action

The Three of Wands often brings up tension after movement has already begun. You've committed to something, but the outcome is still forming. In this space, uncertainty can trigger rumination - repetitive thoughts that question your direction, doubt your progress, or imagine failure. These patterns distract you from what’s actually unfolding and create internal pressure to act from fear rather than intention.

A core lesson here is learning to separate from these thoughts without trying to silence them. When you notice the mind saying, ‘This isn’t working’ or ‘You’ve made a mistake,’ practice defusion by mentally adding, ‘I’m having the thought that…’ before the content. This simple shift weakens the thought’s grip and helps you see it as mental activity and not the truth. It gives enough space to choose your next step from values rather than fear.

Once defused, return to what matters by reconnecting with the reason you made this choice in the first place. Even if progress isn’t visible, that direction still holds meaning. From there, take one small, grounded action that aligns with your values. It doesn’t have to fix anything, just move you one step further into integrity. This might mean following through on a task, reaching out for support, or simply staying engaged with your process rather than abandoning it in uncertainty.

The soul lesson in the Three of Wands is learning to stay present with the in-between - where you’re no longer who you were, but not yet where you're going. However, you’re still you and your stability is your mindset. Defusion in conjunction with committed action allows you to remain anchored in meaning without needing guarantees. Over time, this builds resilience and perspective, helping you move forward from alignment instead of reactivity.

vii. Embodiment

When momentum stalls, the body absorbs the delay and the Three of Wands highlights the tension between taking action and seeing the results. The body often carries this in subtle ways through restlessness, fatigue, or held breath. Tuning into the body helps release the pressure to control timing and brings you back into the present.

Scent – Inhale something grounding; a natural scent or outdoor air. Let it reconnect you with your current environment and shift focus from imagined outcomes to what’s here now.

Body – Notice signs of physical tension in your back, neck or shoulders. Notice any shallow breathing. Bring awareness to your feet or breath to help you feel supported in the pause.

Sound – Listen to steady background noise of the wind, traffic, or birds. Let it remind you that life is moving, even if it’s not on your schedule.

Action – Slow your movements. Walk, speak, or complete one task without rushing. This reinforces steady engagement over forced progress. Make plans in the direction of your goal and commit to the life you’ve decided upon.

Nature Cue – Look to the horizon. Let it remind you that what’s ahead is forming, even if it’s not yet visible. Stay with what’s unfolding, step by step.

viii. Your Impressions

Look at the Three of Wands in your deck or the image above. Let your first impressions come without trying to interpret or adjust them.

What draws your attention - the vast space ahead, the ships in motion, the figure observing, or the distance between where they stand and what lies beyond? Notice any emotional reaction or memory that surfaces in response.
Bring your focus to the body. Track any sensations or tension in the chest, restlessness in the legs, a sense of waiting, or pressure behind the eyes. Notice where the energy collects and whether any thoughts or expectations are tied to it.
Reflect on how you usually respond when you're waiting for something to unfold. Do you distract yourself to avoid feeling uncertain? Do you double down on effort, withdraw, or try to predict the outcome to feel in control? Consider what it might feel like to remain engaged without needing resolution, and how your body responds when you allow time to take its course.

ix. Intuitive Meaning

Use this space to reflect on what the Three of Wands means to you personally:

When you’ve already taken the first step toward something important, how do you respond to the space that follows? Can you stay present with the unknown, or do you try to control what happens next?
Do you place pressure on yourself to see results quickly? What do you expect to feel when things finally ‘work’ - relief, recognition, proof you were right? What happens if that doesn’t arrive in the way you imagined?
Where do you confuse lack of progress with failure? How often do you abandon your direction too soon because it doesn’t move fast enough to quieten your doubts?
Do you rely on others to mirror your momentum, or can you stay committed when external encouragement fades? Are you willing to keep going even when your progress is invisible?
Have you projected an ideal future so far ahead that it’s no longer connected to what you value now? What would change if you allowed your goals to evolve based on who you’re becoming in the ever-evolving present time?
Has the arrival - or absence - of someone, shifted how you see your path? Where are you willing to let timing unfold without forcing meaning onto every delay?

Applied insight with a three-card reading using the Three of Wands as your anchor:

What am I expecting that may not arrive in the way I imagine?
Where am I creating stress by expecting progress to follow my schedule rather than the natural pace of the process?
What steady, aligned step can I take today to remain in contact with my direction?

Let your cards talk and note your feelings as your answers unfold, writing your own words below:

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x. Closing Reflection: Track Your Evolving Lens

Your relationship with each card will grow over time because it’s meant to shaped by your life. Consider the prompts below to revisit and reflect.

What I thought this card meant when I first pulled it: —————————————————
A recent experience that changed how I see it: —————————————————
How I feel about it now, in my body or life: —————————————————
What surprised me as this card kept showing up: —————————————————
One way this card is living in my life right now: —————————————————
If this card visited me today as a guide, what would it want me to remember? —————————————————

Revisit these after a week, a moon phase, or a meaningful moment. Let the card evolve as you do.

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matters, three of swords, three of swords pain, unprocessed emotional pain, past life cycles, grief betrayal, rejection and abandonment, unresolved past experiences, relationship to emotion, withdrawal anger self blame, core pattern, emotional injury, pain becomes part of your identity, heartache, emotional wounding, sorrow hurt, unprocessed past wounds, refusal to feel pain, grief passed down, suppressed grief, emotional detachment recurring pain, forgiveness, releasing past pain, generational traumas, grieve and let healing begin, three swords piercing heart, floating heart, grey sky and rain, heaviness and grief, disconnection from grounded self, isolation in emotional experience, seek support, sharp upright swords, mental fixation, overthinking and rumination, self judgement, mentally stuck, saturn and venus, seventh tenth second eighth, enmeshment bypassing, preserve connection, number 3, number three, scattered energy, separation after being together, hope ends, attachment patterns, abandonment, rejection and abandonment reumination, emotional numbness, doesnt help, deploy, master storyteller, radio doom and gloom, face karmic patterns, wound was created, root of wounding, four of swords, "rest, recovery, healing, mental restoration, solitude, meditation, emotional reset, spiritual retreat, burnout recovery, peace, psychological healing, inner stillness, nervous system regulation, healing space, temporary withdrawal, recuperation, self-care, integration, spiritual pause, trauma, emotional shutdown, overwhelmed mentally, running away, recalibrate, stress sadness problems, hiding feelings, rest deeply, recovery mental exhaustion, rest overwhelm, integration internal processing, mindful balanced harmony, unresovled grief, burnout, emotional exhaustion and resolving it, help and support, disconnection and grief, overreaction, defensiveness, three swords above one below, stone figure lying still, stained glass window, dim light and shadows, sword pointing down below the hands, jupiter and libra, ninth seventh third and twelfth houses, dedicated worker, reminder to breathe, mentally drained, five swords, no one wins, breakdown in communication, defensive thinking, dominate, protect vulnerability, early experiences of conflict, when to let go, face discomfort, harming yourself, competition power struggles, winning at all costs, miscommunication, affecting relationships, ongoing tension, soul lessons, regret, unresolved conflict, reconstruction, forgiveness guilt shame, resnetment, cutting chords, reconciliation, repair begins where defensiveness ends, weapons, three swords two on ground, figure walking away, smirk, self satisfaction, protect onself, dominance, withdrawal, emotional detachments, pride and fear, exposure, mars and venus, first third eighth houses, aries and libra, number 5, number five, respond to tension, disconnection and imbalance, mind defends, acquit, justify their actions, foundations of stability, cancer moon and 4th house, six of swords, "transition, healing journey, moving on, rite of passage, leaving the past behind, progress, inner peace, travel, recovery from trauma, spiritual passage, letting go, moving through grief, psychological growth, emotional distance, guidance, support systems, mental shift, emotional evolution, coping strategies, subconscious healing, period of transition, left behind, forced, carrying, mental processing, rite of passages, releasing baggage, sadness and inner journey, necessary transition, between chapters, emotional backlog, fear of release, grief in transition, delayed processing, clinging to the past, figures in the boat, stress, boatman with pole, six swords in the boat, still water, rough water, conflict to calm, distant land, reaching safety, mercury moon, third fourth houses, speaking patterns, gemini and cancer, internal states, analysing emotion, staying present, disruption, war cry, yours to carry, unprocessed grief, time will fix things, cost of staying where you are, what needs to be lost, let go of roles, based on survival, optional, revisit every detail, unsafe, instinct to retreat, releasing judgement, defusing from time, harsh self talk, resentment and mental overwhelm, shame, i shouldnt feel like this, i always ruin things, theyll never change, i must be a bad person, im having the thought that, past based thoughts, future based thoughts, fear anxiety assumptions control, guilt grief regret replayed pain, manage with logic, isolate, seven of swords, "deception, secrecy, strategy, betrayal, hidden motives, manipulation, self-deception, cunning, lies, withholding truth, dishonesty, escape, evasion, moral ambiguity, guilt, stolen energy, hidden agenda, sneaky behavior, trust issues, psychological defense, fear of confrontation, survival tactics, subconscious behavior, avoidance of responsibility, duplicity, false persona, mental trickery, intellectual dishonesty, karmic patterns, integrity, mistrust, avoidance or secrecy, harm rejection loss, self protection mode, strategymistrust emotional distancing, survival patterns, resourceful ingenuity, incognito, clandestine, causing more harm, soul contracts are not bomb proof, mental constructs, withholding, second guessing, self monitoring, escapism no longer holds power, unresolved childhood fear, self deceit, sabotaging behaviours, collapse of manipulation, karmic reckoning, imposter syndrome, a truth you need to stand in, figure tiptoeing with swords, looking over shoulder, anxiety guilt, evasion and strategic behaviour, tents in the background, mercury pluto uranus, third eleventh eighth, gemini virgo aquarius, self reflection finding hidden truths, stops your growth, planning cautious speech, bread crumbing benching ghosting gaslighting, toxic relationship control patterns, creative hopelessness what has trying gotten you, assumed, changing your story, hiding the truth, avoiding a conversation, keeping people guessing, protecting yourself, short term, what has it cost over time, eight of sword, eight of swords tarot, "restriction, entrapment, powerlessness, mental prison, anxiety, paralysis, stuck mindset, helplessness, illusion of limitation, self-imposed barriers, feeling trapped, negative thought loops, emotional suppression, psychological paralysis, eight of swords, subconscious fear, limiting beliefs, mental conditioning, victim mindset, lack of clarity, suppressed truth, emotional entanglement, self-sabotage, disempowerment, healing through awareness, blind spots, inner turmoil, fear-based thinking, breakthrough potential, personal responsibility, psychological breakthrough, mental patterns, insight through stillness, spiritual awakening, clarity through courage, self-liberation, gen x, seen and not heard era, the silent generation, mental paraylsis, powerless and trapped, no visible way out, blindfold, expecting the worst, no options, spiral into anxiety, suffering, intrusive thoughts, mental entrapment, rigid thinking, self imposted limits, fear of changes, avoidance overthinking, fear of authority, emotional paralysis, victim mindsets, karmic inertia, inner restriction, codependency and fear of negative consequences, identify the source, is the threat real or imagined, holding yourself back, emotional cost, playing the victim, own your experiences, faith in your autonomy, internal constraints, self liberation, release old story, swords around figure, blindfold and bound hands, tide out, grey sky, time dependent, immobility, face feelings, suspended, rescued, overwhelming, saturn and mercury, third and tenth house, gemini and capricorn, cycles control, fear of consequences, harshly, mistakes punished, rumination fear doubt, inaction, personal autonomy, facing fear, perception, projection and communication, overactive, obsessing, worst case scenario, worse case, vulnerability avoid, cant see a way out, no option, constantly anxious, default behaviour, emotional needs were dismissed, learning to stay silent, silent and small, volcanic outbursts, defiance, frozen with fear, fail before you try, avoiding yourself, mistrust and emotional withholding, anxiety avoidant, anxious avoidant, attachment pattern, unsafe pointless, criticised, dismissed and silent treatment, fear anger shame grief, soul evolution, preparing to escape, psychospiritual defusion, you are not your thoughts, repetitive fears, imagined consequences, no one will support me, im having the thought that..., i cant leave, who is noticing the noticing, who is noticing, resist aruging with the mind, obeying, every thought as truth, debilitating fear, protection to presence, fear of making the wrong decision, criticism punishment, unstable environments, nervous system rewiring, trapped, unsure, pretend youre fine, staying a victim, give yourself permission, doubting yourself, shaped by fear, secure connection, distant or silence, avoidance of decisions, keeping the peace, empathy versus compassion, the silent generation eara, the silent generation era, generation x, victorian era, nine of swords tarot, nine of swords, distress, cptsd, iemt, erp, recurring thoughts, interrupts sleep, increases anxiety, rumination unresovled shame, impossible standards, family roles, internalised pressure, accumulated, separate from old belief system, old defences, crisis, false identity, karmic interruption, ancestral healing, figure sitting up in bed head in hands, bedspread, defeated, inherited shame, saturn mercury neptune, fear of failure, third sixth tenth, gemin capricorn pisces, fear based thinking, isoaltion, isolation, isolated, automatic, recognising rumination, doesnt belong to you, need protection, silent suffering, being blamed, internal foundation, rehearsals worst case scenarios, noticing the thought, prefixed, exposure and response prevention therapy, eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing, integral eye movement therapy, distressing memories, brain processes, stores experiences, talk therapy, tolerance, safety, self compassion, rejection blame instability, others emotions, becoming clearer, protect me, invisibility, ten of swords tarot, "betrayal, rock bottom, painful ending, loss, collapse, defeat, backstabbing, failure, finality, exhaustion, deep wounds, hopelessness, despair, emotional breakdown, ruin, crisis point, victim mentality, ten of swords, ego death, psychological collapse, painful truth, karmic completion, end of a cycle, transformation through pain, forced release, inner ending, subconscious clearing, emotional devastation, spiritual reckoning, healing from betrayal, resilienc, defeat betrayal, broken down, shame and disconnection, self erasure, irreversible, ending, inherited sacrifice, loss of identity, crisis of meaning, soul fracture, worst is over, attachment to suffering, self image, emotional residue, karmic fatigue, refusal to move on, inner resistance, pierced by swords, swords in back, black sky, rising dawn, finished, saturn neptune mars pluto, 12th 10th 8th 1st, capricorn pisces scorpio mars, ten and one, 10 and 1, bracing, repairing, crisis mode, when nothing works, erp emdr iemt, grounding is essential, toll, Page of Swords, "curiosity, new ideas, observation, vigilance, intelligence, truth-seeking, inquiry, questioning, research, sharp mind, youthful perspective, nervous energy, gossip, scattered focus, learning phase, mental agility, page of swords, intellectual curiosity, psychological insight, inner dialogue, seeking truth, mental exploration, thought patterns, communication style, impulsive speech, boundaries in communica, alert, restless, defence, defense, anticipating danger, avoiding vulnerability, interpersonal, academic, desire for control, youthful psyche, hyper vigilance, thirst for knowledge, suspicious mindset, obsessive, narrow view, tunnel vision, big sky thinking, observant, mental pressures, fear based logic, unsresolved insecurity, sword upright, windblown trees, body facing one way head another, sword held but not used, green land and open sky, perception distorts, mercury and uranus planets, third sixth eleventh, gemini virgo aquarius signs, number eleven, support insight, overstiumulated, strained, earlier environments, sky and weather, scanning for threat, a storm will pass, open minded, broader picture, exploring possibility, reconnecting with the body, self abanondment, mental overuse, restore connection, new book, what happens, bracing for the future, let yourself be here, always prepared, understanding everything to be safe, truth withheld, knight of swords, sharp, fast thinking, strong ambitino, ambition, drive to succeed, quick to act speak, pursue goals, too quick, fast thinking and action driven, witty, direct momentum, mental sharpness, strategic focus, open as you lead, impulsivity, intellectual burnout, scattered or reactive, without direction, speaking from tension, taking control quickly helped avoid risk, controlling environment, ignored and unsafe, fear controls your speed, fear of vulnerability, knight charging forward, horseback, strong will, windswept sky, bending trees, intellectual clarity, locked on a goal, tight short reins, horse mid stride, controlled momentum, mercury and mars, third sixth first, gemini virgo, twelve, 12, three, 3, thought speech perception, catapults into fear mode, take control, state your opinions, told to shut up, no one wants to hear you, no one wants to listen to you, what you say will get you into trouble, mind leaps to worry, exaggerate, observe pressure, fully understand, listen to understand, dont try to win, taking its toll, urgency, move with your mind r, intellectual control, meaningful direction, reorient, quieter tone, not about silencing the mind, use the mind with intention and purpose, controlling environments, stop rehearsing past future, decide immediately, where did belief start, intellectual pattern, queen of swords, observation over emotion, developed discernment, stress and hardship, watching before engaging, assertive and observant, direct communication, maturity and respected, hard earned, critical mindset, shaped by past hurt, avoid being affected, survival pattern, hypervigilance, hyper vigilance and over analysis, sword upright in hand, mental strength, truth and clear boundaries, left hand raised palm open, cautious openess, clear sky, utterfly crown, butterfly crown, carved stone, calm face and distant focus, wind blown cloak, seventh tenth, saturn and venus planets, libra capricorn taurus, thirteen 13, four 4, rigid, without empathy, mid sentence, over explaining, guardedness, holding back, held back, shut the conversation down, without losing sight of who you are, acceptance wihtout judgement, why this matters, emotional distance once protected you, now limits connection, deeper prescence, breath and scent, "authority, intellect, clarity, truth, leadership, ethical judgment, rationality, strategic thinking, analytical skills, mastery, responsibility, power of reason, intellectual authority, king of swords, intellectual maturity, moral clarity, critical thinking, structured thought, legal matters, justice, accountability, strategic leadership, mental discipline, fair leadership, inner authority, clarity of vision, ethical power, strong boundaries, wisdom through experience, psychological, king of swords tarot, intelligence and articulate, highly experienced, facts data informed reasoning, defend with precision, influential, sound judgement, relying on intellect, suppressing human need for connection, analysis, leadership and control, fear of being wrong, losing control, critical of others, pattern of distancing, accountability and control, manipulation imbalance detachment misuse of power and struggles, blocking growth and connection, sword upright held firmly in front, throne butterflies moon angels, crown authority straight posture, clear skies lower clouds, unclouded by emotion, external pressures shifts, composed uncertainty, saturn mars, tenth first, capricorn aries, fourteen 14, five 5, threatens sense of control, correcting others, relying on facts alone, shut down emotion, poker face, dismissive, rigid grip, being blamed and overlooked, shaped need for control, mind as a defense, calm intention, lead without domination, lose direction, impulse to withdraw, what matters to you really, leading by example, acting from values not control, identifying the pattern, ask the values question, define a small action, why this matters to you, tendency to lead with thought to avoid emotional vulnerability, committed action, what feels safe but empty, structured breathing, box breathing, count for four hold for four, strict control, who taught you to, maintain control, losing identity, lost identity, independence, losing independence, "inspiration, passion, motivation, enthusiasm, life force, drive, courage, initiation, opportunity, personal power, breakthrough, inner fire, willpower, spiritual energy, manifestation, intuitive impulse, ace of wands, creative ignition, soul spark, purpose activation, visionary energy, desire to act, energy surge, bold action, creative potential, new venture, awakening passion, inner calling, dynamic force, transformative energy, divine inspiration, fire element, ace of wands tarot, new spark, creative idea, stirs excitement, calls for action, trust your inner fire, what excites you, space to take shape, energises you, creativity potential, intuition excitement, direction, emergence, passion and inspiration, disconnected from what inspires you, what feels meaningful, what lights you up, uncertainty blocked expression, delays low energy lack of direction, hidden ideas self doubt, disconnection from intuition, holding back and dont know why, hand emerging from a cloud holding a wand, leaves sprouting from wand, mountains in distance, flowing river, emotional movement root and expand, creative potentials, right hand extended from cloud, invitation is there, sun and mars, fifth and first, leo and aries, express yourself with meaning, sustainable action, impulse and prescence, number one 1, fire fuels enthusiasm, interrupts your routine, divine timings, hesitation as a pattern, what are you keeping safe, justifying it, twin souls, soul mates, timelines, crossed paths, crossing paths, crossroads, between a rock and a hard place, between two choices, between, fantasy imagining future, beyond current situation, committed to moving forward, someone else, shared vision, fixed expectations, total opposite, indecision is still a decision, present limitations, actual life, figure holding globe, wand fixed to wall, red robe, stone wall castle, between two paths, the unknown, leaving comfort zone, mars and sun, first and fifth, aries and leo, duality choice tension, inner and outer, decision indecision, patterns hesitation, leaving job relationship, feeling pressure, wedged, wanting more, waiting for a sign, divine timeing, divine timing, laps of the gods, compromise, agreeing to disagree, perpetual planning, threshold, potential paralysis, speaking truthfully to someone, send the message, send a message, one meaningful action, committed action for two of wantds, two of wands, high stakes, body holds tension, strain of stagnation, open a window, pacing restlessness shallow breath, suppressed energy, natural movement, between choices, another place, survival patterns longing to act, perceived obligation, duty obligation, three of wands tarot, three of wands, "expansion, foresight, momentum, growth, alignment, long-term vision, confidence, exploration, success on the horizon, preparation, manifestation in motion, waiting for results, broad perspective, enterprise, stepping forward, tarot meanin, three of wands tarot card, waiting, manage uncertainty, letting go of control, between timelines, expansion expectatino discomfort in the unknown, projection waiting fear of failure, momentum unsteady ground, longing and avoidance, stuck waiting, the never never, patience, fear of failure unrealistic expectations, figure facing outward, three wands planeted in ground, ships on water, waiting for ships coming in, wide landscape open sea, a future, misjudged timing, launched the project, now youre waiting, controlling outcomes, progress too slow, no mistakes only lessons, visible progress, the inbetween, momentum stalls, body absorbs